I BANNED THANKSGIVING AND YOU CAN TOO!

Why?!  What do you mean, "why"?  It's 2014, and all that information is available for free on the internet.  Everybody knows it's a bogus holiday, so why are we still "going along" with it, thus supporting the rewritten history lesson that supposedly justifies it?

pros-
time off work/school
family gathering
big meal
football games
holiday shopping

 cons-
time off work/school
family gathering
too many carbs
football games
holiday shopping
inaccurate stories perpetuated, lies still taught in some schools

Some people follow tradition because it's tradition, and no other reason.  Wow, look at you blindly following tradition without really understanding how and why this came to be a tradition!

I tend to question everything, and do research until I can make my own decisions, based on the facts.  That way, I never have to feel insecure.  (If you struggle with insecurity, start doing this- it works!)

Here's a little known fact: we can have dinner, family gatherings and football anytime!  We don't need thanksgiving and all the misinformation surrounding it.  We don't need to follow "tradition for the sake of tradition"- that mentality is holding us back.  We could be creating new and meaningful traditions that don't celebrate genocide.

In conclusion, I will enjoy this day as a regular day off, deciding for myself how this day will be spent.  And to those of you busting ass cleaning and cooking in "tradition prison", well.....

HAPPY THANKSGIVING, I GUESS?

So-Called "Elections" Have Us Believing We Have A Voice When We Really Don't

I can't participate in elections because I don't trust them.  Even if I like one candidate over another,  I can't help but wonder what is going on behind the scenes.  The system itself is flawed, even rigged.  Politicians are actors.  Candidates are bought, in exchange for money they will "stand for" whatever their sponsor paid for.  And if they're in it for money, then they are not going to be a good leader.  The general population is naive to the horrible things that are done and then lied about.  Even people who are good hearted and want to do the right thing, won't- because they are conditioned to uphold the status quo and will defend it rather than help to facilitate change to better the world.

In other words, we all know that "corporations are evil" because we've heard it, but we still go to the mall.  We all know we should recycle but sometimes it's just easier to throw it in the trash next to your desk than bring it out to the recycle bin when you come out of your cube.  

We need to put our heads together to come up with an alternative to voting.  Voting is not working like they said it would.  They lied.  We've been had, fuck those guys, enough already, let's come up with something else.

Oh wait, I'm not being controversial enough.  

Your vote doesn't count.  It doesn't matter anyway, the global system is fucked.  You should feel guilty for not recycling.  Commodity is the opposite of humanity.  Money is worth more than human life.  True story.  You should feel guilty for spending money on stupid shit.  You should also feel like a moron for thinking that everyone has more money than you therefore you need to make it seem like you have as much or more than them.  You idiot, we're all poor.

Stop buying stuff!  Make it yourself, fix it yourself, read and learn and do something for yourself god dammit!

Also, fuck anti-feminism and Mens Rights Activists and people who think religion is anything other than insanity.  Fuck you guys for going to church and inflicting your make-believe world on your children and fucking them up the way your parents fucked you up- I hope you enjoy feeling guilty and drinking too much.

And you're fat.

"American Freedoms" Don't Apply To American Citizens, And Nobody Told Us

#Ferguson....   Just the latest example of the way America really is....  I have never been so afraid in my life.  And I am not easily scared.  I tend to conquer fear and anxiety with knowledge.  Knowledge is power, so if you're worrying about something, learn all about it.  Usually, understanding eases anxiety and fear.  However, when it comes to the United States economy and culture and policies and conduct and omfg- it does not ease the fear, it only magnifies it.  The more truth I take in, the more I withdraw.  Which sucks for you because I'm fucking smart, I don't compete with women (I got a man), and I have so much to say, so many ideas, and I want to help PEOPLE.  I really do.  I don't care about money or fame, nope, I care about the culture/world/people that my children will have to exist in when I'm gone.  And in this police state of a country, and my big balls, I could be killed for spreading truth, instigating change- of course a made-up reason, like I had a gun or I was being violent or aggressive, would be in the newspapers and that would be the end of it.  Well, for the record, I have never shot a gun in my life and I don't even have access to a gun, or know anyone who has one, etc, so. If I were to become a voice of revolution, it wouldn't have anything to do with violence or guns.  My revolution is about Gardens and Greenhouses and Community....  seriously, my revolution = get off the fucking grid.  Stop paying taxes, stop paying middlemen, stop funding corruption!  Simple as that!

Unfortunately, We the people are BRAINWASHED.  Try to tell someone to stop paying taxes.  They think I'm nuts.  Even my boyfriend is still brainwashed (although he's come a LONG way!) to think he should play the stock market to gain "wealth", because he has a deep seated need to keep up with the Joneses.  Poor dear.  He doesn't know what I know: that the stock market, the federal reserve, the OLD MONEY actually will not let him join their club- oh no they will fuck him and everyone they can fuck until they are the only ones left.  did you know the Federal Reserve has no allegiance to the US?  Nope.  Foreign OLD money.  America isn't old.  To the rest of the world, we're just a stupid kid.  And THAT IS the federal reserve.  Americans ARE stupid.

You know what, Americans generally are REALLY STUPID.  And I hate to say that and if you read that and you feel insulted and angry and you're getting defensive and you wanna hate me for it, well,  that just means that you know how stupid you are.  Maybe you don't like to read.  Maybe nobody taught you how to be SMART and your ego prevents you from asking for help.

Maybe I need haters.  Maybe I need to be challenged.  Maybe I should stop being polite for a change and start telling people the fucking truth.

We Believe Lies And Avoid Truth Because We're Too Tired, Right?

All of us, fucking brainwashed.

I remember the first time I found out what hot dogs were made of.  I tried to tell my mother and she said, "No!  Don't tell me, I'll never be able to eat them again!"


Of course.  Don't tell me what's going on behind the scenes at McDonald's because I don't want to give up drive-thru.  Don't tell me how they modify produce to grow its own pesticide.  Don't tell me about the conditions at the meat factories.  Don't tell me that aspartame is the fecal matter of bacteria.  Don't tell me the government is exploiting us, the corporations that run the government are exploiting us.  That the textbooks at my kids' school are inaccurate.  That "no child left behind" doesn't mean what you think it means.  That civilian police are now paramilitary equipped and are above the law.  Laws are written in a confusing way on purpose to leave room for interpretation, depending on whose side you're on.  That my vote doesn't count.

Ok, brainwashed.  And fat, unhealthy.  Overworked, underpaid, under-educated.  Kept down by the system that exploits us.  We can't even think straight.  Let's just order a pizza, watch TV, gotta get up early tomorrow.....

ok, too much information?

Start with the machine that is your body.  Read the ingredients.

Do you know what you just put in your mouth and chewed and swallowed?  Do you know what you're putting in your body?  Do you want to know?

You = human= machine.
Machine has needs.  Machine doesn't understand "want"  Want?  wtf?
Want= emotion

oh yeah, feelings.  Feelings Lie.

Give the machine what it needs.  It doesn't need soda, your whiny emotions want a soda, but you know you don't need it.  Your PMS crankypants attitude wants a cheesecake, but you don't need it.  Feed your brain instead and break this pattern!

KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid)

Eat stuff from the earth (fresh fruits and vegetables)
Less ingredients= more healthy
DRINK ONLY WATER

History Lessons With Context, For Kids

Hold up your hand, like 5.  Your thumb is your kids, pointer is you, middle is your parents, ring is your grandparents, pinky is your great-grandparents.  About 100 years, 5 generations.  This was how I began to teach my daughters about, well, life: time, family, history, culture, religion, economics, people.  I want to share this idea because it has been extremely effective in getting children to understand things on a broader and deeper level.

Each finger has its own place in history.  When I tell the girls stories about their grandmother, it leads to stories about what was going on in the world when Grammy was little, and MeMe was my age...  and their culture and religion, and even things like gender roles and social expectations of that time.  The idea is to point out that most things in life are not taught intentionally, but rather incidentally.    Customs and traditions aside, basic social skills are learned by observing adults at home when we're little.  Is your temper like your dad's temper?  Do you smoke?  These are things that we learn at home when we're little.  It's subconscious.  Children learn what they live.  By pointing this out, I am able to explain to my kids why people are the way they are, based on how and where and when they were raised and schooled.

Some people are brought up a certain way, and they stay that way.  They stay loyal to whatever mindset they were raised around, and then raise the next generation the same way.

Hypothetically, if you were raised to be honest and responsible and fair, to rise above human emotions and use fact and logic and critical thinking to solve problems, and to serve the greater good in the name of peace and world unity, then awesome!  You should totally stay loyal to that mindset and raise your kids to be that way too!  Eradicate greed and envy!

envy= self hatred

greed= compensation of self hatred

uh-oh, spin-off rant**

If you hate yourself, there's a reason.  Is it a real reason?  I mean, is it real or only feels real?  It is worth facing the truth about your self esteem, because low self-esteem is the opposite of inner peace.  How many times have you lacked the confidence or the motivation to do what you know is right?  Have you displayed false confidence instead?  Repeated what you heard instead of doing your own research?  Or simply act apathetic?

Emotions hold us back, and we let them.  They are not even true, not factual, not "real", but unfortunately we have been taught to rely on them.  You've heard "go with your gut" and "follow your heart" but have you heard "recognize your feeling but don't throw a fit over it, try to figure out why you feel that way and then fix the fucking problem"??

MADE SIMPLE:

Feelings Lie and Truth Hurts

Stop Avoiding Pain, The Only Way Out Is Through

If You Feel Anxiety About Something, Learn More About It

Things I Learned In Therapy

I don't have all the answers, but Google does, so by proxy we are all brilliant.....

 I want to live in a world where it is ok for us to feel pride in ourselves.  Seemingly, I'm allowed to be smart, resourceful and independent but not allowed to be confident or helpful.... really?

Recently, I was told by someone (a male) that my confidence is off-putting, and people hate it when I "act like I'm smart" and try to help them, and that I am perceived as a cavalier know-it-all who is actually belittling the ones I aim to help, that I am so arrogant that I don't see it, and to top it all off, I purposefully limit my interactions with people who are dumber than me in order to feel good about myself.  This is quite an insult, not only to me but to anyone I ever interact with (including this person I dare say).  Clearly none of these things can be true, or I would've heard it from someone other than him by now, and people would have stopped hitting me up for advice long ago.  I gather that this insult stems from the way this person feels about himself.  Why else would he want me to feel bad about the way I am?  Why would he want me to believe that I should keep my mouth shut lest I go around offending people?  Why would anyone take my behavior personally?  This is an example of bullying, where you want to knock someone down a peg to make yourself feel better, right?  Only it backfired on him, because my peg is still right where it was.  Thanks to years of therapy, I know what is good about me, in a factual sense.  I also know what is bad about me in a factual sense, which is why I have been in therapy for 4 years.   Knowing your own strengths/weaknesses is a GOOD THING, and it is not easy to un-know something you have studied and worked hard for.  I consider myself to be a force of good in the universe, isn't that a good thing?  I like helping people when I can.  I also like being helped by people who know more than me!  And what's wrong with giving advice?  It's GIVING, not taking, it's free to use or to disregard, or even to challenge, so why should it bother anyone?  My opinions are based on my knowledge and experiences, same as yours.  I am not simply a product of how I was raised, or what I was taught in school.  I do not operate on autopilot... anymore, thanks to therapy...  Thanks to therapy I have a sense of organic confidence that I didn't have before.  I pursue knowledge and solutions, I offer to help people whether I know them or not, I challenge people who used to intimidate me.  I am able to feel things like pride and peace.  And you want to hold that against me?  You want to turn it into something it's not, you want to turn it into snobbery and cockery, when it clearly isn't.  I am proud of my ability to see people and things for what they are.  There is no need for comparison when you see things that way, so how can you say I think I am better than you?  What one person is capable of has nothing to do with anyone else, therefore comparisons are simply pointless.  Fish can't climb trees, a smart person would never bother to compare them to squirrels.  Personally, I would be thrilled if everyone decided to be the best person they could be.  People who are okay with themselves are ultimately going to do more for the greater good than someone who has not addressed their self esteem issues.  Low self esteem is the reason people go crazy and think evil thoughts and do evil things.  Low self esteem is the opposite of peace.  I know from personal experience.  When I decided to become the best me possible, I knew my only hope was to get my ass to therapy, and it has resulted in personal growth that I wouldn't have achieved otherwise.  I am going to continue to share myself, my wisdom, my experiences, my knowledge, my mistakes, my ideas, my music....  and I am going to pass my philosophy on to my children and hope nobody tries to make them feel bad for being the best people they can be.  Ideally, you will join me in this, and we will raise the next generation to be intelligent, peaceful, confident people, who aren't cocks.

How I Stay Thin

I am not skinny.  I am not a health nut, or an exercise freak, nor have I ever had a flat, model belly.  However, I'm a thin person.  I am a bit top-heavy but not busty enough to notice really.  Overall I am grateful for the body I have.  I was a little overweight in between each baby, but I managed to snap back (with some stretch marks of course).  I maintain a relatively hot but flawed body (considering I had 3 kids).  I'm telling you this because I want to share my "think thin" philosophy that I learned from my Dad.   Think like a thin person thinks, do what a thin person does.  Catch yourself when you're about do to something a fat person would do.   Develop thin habits.  Now, I used to think thin habits amounted to starving and smoking cigarettes, but in my experience, it is really all about portion control.  Habitually, I don't eat very much in one sitting, or very quickly.  Well, I drink coffee quickly, I almost chug my first cup.  I take my morning pills with my first cup so that might be why.  But coffee in the morning, a slice of raisin toast with butter and a hard boiled egg or a link of sausage, and more coffee...  with whole milk and 3 sugars (it's a big mug), and after that it's just pitcher water til after school.  Bear in mind that this all starts around 6am-ish, and it takes me forever to finish eating my little breakfast.  I take a bite or 2 and walk away, do a chore or go to the store and come back in an hour and have a little more.  Woah did that totally rhyme?  Weird.  Anyway, the good thing is that I don't ever stuff myself.  Well, maybe once in a while, at night.  When I drink red wine I like to snack on cheese and olives, and cheez-its, and occasionally some pepperoni slices but you shouldn't ever feel stuffed if you want a small stomach.  In fact, only eat until you're not hungry.  Leave plenty of room for dessert and then don't have dessert.  I mean, don't eat dessert.  Go have sex instead, and be on top.  A thin person would be on top.  A thin person would have a small stomach and would be completely stuffed by now (that means stop eating now if you want to be a thin person).  And if your portion looks like it's not enough, stop trusting your eyes!  Use your hand as a guideline, eat a handful at a time, drink water in between.  No special diet, just common sense and portion control.  Don't eat crap, and don't eat much, you don't want to stretch out your stomach by stuffing it to the brim.  Even if you are stuffed on celery you are still stretching your stomach out, which means the next time you are hungry it will take more food to sate you.  That's going the wrong way!  Eat less and less, shrink your stomach, need very little to sate your hunger!!!  Create new habits based on thinking and acting thin, that way even if you do occasionally eat crap, you won't eat much of it.  A habit takes only 21 days to develop into the feeling of normal routine.  Just sayin'.

The reason I titled this as a  "controversy" is because:

~ I assume there will be someone who reads this and thinks something like, "well maybe for you but I'm naturally fat"  And to that person I say, "Well then you are thinking like a fat person, and probably acting like one."  Don't use that excuse anymore and see how much easier it is to take that step in the right direction.  Next thing you know, every step you take will be in that direction, out of habit.

~It is taboo to talk about wanting to be thin, isn't it?  Even though we're all thinking it, we're not supposed to talk about it?  Oh, wait, we're not supposed to be obsessed with it, or something....

~It is culturally unacceptable to have the audacity to give advice to anyone about anything ever, especially without credentials.  Well my credentials are as follows:  I've been unhealthily thin, I've been fat, and I've been healthily thin, in that order, and I look good now doing what I'm doing.  Some people have asked me how I do it.  So there ya go.

~ I can think of plenty of reasons to NOT post this......