Be The Heroine Of Your Story

Sansa begs to marry the prince.

Your life is your movie, and you are the protagonist.  You can't help how your story started, but you can take control now.

Think about your character arc.  In any story, the main character starts out one way... 

My dream come true!

...and ends up different.  Their conflicts or struggles teach them something and they grow.


Now consider a basic story arc.  The first act establishes the characters and setting.  The second act will present a problem.  The third act is where the protagonist feels defeated and has given up all hope, and the conclusion is the final showdown, where the hero will triumph by using what he has learned.

If you want to be the triumphant heroine in your life, consider this:

The main character is their own worst enemy when they have preconceptions about what is to come.  

Sansa didn't understand disillusionment.  Now she does.

The character experiences a rude awakening and it helps them understand the big picture.  

This understanding leads to their triumph!

Sansa learned the hard way: ignorance is not bliss. 

Apply this to your life by becoming the author of your story.  Assume the position of the third person omniscient storyteller.  

Separate your ego- the character- from yourself- the author.  And be honest with both of yourselves.  

If you can do that, you can think about how your own preconceptions will lead you to a rude awakening, a better understanding, and eventual triumph.  

In other words:

Challenge yourself, and you'll be prepared when life challenges you.

 The right thing to do seems wrong when you don't have all the facts.